Softness, gentleness, and self control. They are all so vitally important in a quality relationship. Whether it be a Mother/Daughter, Husband/Wife, or friendship. It’s those moments that melt your soul. The kind words exchanged allowing for an open heart, free from the need for protection.
There is nothing more precious than seeing an older couple holding hands, being tender to each other in eye contact and words. Years of being the other’s BIGGEST FAN. I believe we all desire this on some level.
I hear so often the stories of people’s hearts being hurt, as if there is a competition of who is right, who is wrong, or who is better than the other, or more knowledgable. So sad that the antagonistic spirit takes over, which causes callouses to grow over hearts in protection mode versus the softness of gestures, expressions, acceptance, and grace that we all so desperately need in this harsh world.
Having a soft place to fall, after a hard day of work related politics and demands is so essential. Co-workers and strangers surrounding us don’t know or understand the way we desire to be understood. Words and body language can be so quickly used as small daggers, we wall up with protection, to bounce off the barbs, and continue to do as we are required to keep the job, make the money, pay the bills, tolerate the in-law or hang with the ‘in’ crowd. When it is all said and done, we drive home lonely, longing for true deep connection.
I certainly am not saying that we need the soul depth on a daily basis, but we do need it when it counts. When we have been hurt, or when we question life, our goals, our insecurities. The world can be so harsh on the outside of our four walls. Wouldn’t it be nice to be home, with family, close friends, and know that we are accepted? That our deepest hurts are safe if needing to be expressed, our laughter is understood, that we believe in each other, and lift each other up for each other’s highest good?
Safety is so important. Heart safety. The feeling that we don’t have to be closed in protection mode, but live in the warmth of love, protection and care. Sincere care. The kind that comes from compassion, selflessness, and unconditional love.